RELATIONSHIPS

I am not going to talk about how to be the perfect couple. This is about a different kind of relationship. The relationship with yourself.

There are a few things I’ve learned about relationships and I am pretty sure you did so too. For example, in every relationship, you have to make some sacrifices. The question here is, what are you ready to give up? And what will you get in return? Because when we commit to someone or something, it means you take the whole package. All the ups and downs. You accept the things the way they are and work with it. And with acceptance, there is room for love. Keeping a relationship healthy also requires constant effort. The more you want to grow, the more effort you’ll have to make. It’s not like painting a picture and then hang it on the wall for decoration. It’s more like a never ending pell where you keep writing for the rest of your life. In this process, communication is an inevitable tool to make the relationship work. But the most important thing is: If it doesn’t feel good, it won’t last.

We are all so busy building relationships with other people that we forget to build a healthy relationship with ourselves.

How is your relationship with your mind? How is your relationship with your body? What do you sacrifice for these relationships? What do you get in return? Do you accept the imperfections and work with them? Do you make any effort to grow? Do you communicate with your mind and body? Does the relationship feel good? Is there room for love?

These are the questions I started to ask myself a few years ago when I realized how much I’ve been used to disregard the health of my mind and body. I was busy like everyone else. Now I realize, that I actually have more time, space and quality of life by really caring for my mind and body. There is room for love.

Love doesn’t mean that everything is perfect. Love means accepting the inperfections and see a chance.

Two years ago, I wasn’t happy with my body. I was trying to lose weight but I skipped the most important step on the stairway to my goal: Love. This kept me far away from where I wanted to be. And this wasn’t even a conscious choice, I just didn’t realize that this wasn’t real self-love. Because self-love is not about standing in front of the mirror every morning and convincing yourself that you love what you see. As you know, love is a feeling that occurs over time in a relationship. You start to invest, you sacrifice, you grow, you change and most importantly, you generally feel good. It’s good energy, it makes sence. And there is no difference when it comes to the relationship with your very self.

So when I started to engage more with my body, I also started to be more conscious about what was going on in my mind, because this is where the change really happens. I dug for the roots of my thoughts and believes, to understand. Because when you understand, when things make sense, you can find a way to work with them. Running away from what you’re scared of and hating yourself for your weaknesses won’t make a change. There is only a chance to grow if you can work with what you’ve got.

Seeing your mind and body as partners will help you being more compassionate with yourself. Building a relationship with these partners will benefit you in the future, this is why we build relationships in the first place, right?

The relationship with your mind and body is the most important one you will ever have, because it’s the only one you can’t get out of, ever.